Cutting Cords to Cleanly Leave People and Places

Dear friends,

Sometimes, what seems like the perfect situation can be absolute hell if it’s not the right fit.

My first job out of college was working for a prestigious, sexy and popular magazine company. Great pay; perks and goody-bags galore. Great growth and benefits. Yet I wasn’t fulfilled.

I couldn’t shake it; I always felt like a tourist to that life. It just wasn’t for me. After a few months I cut the cords and left to become a teacher; never looking back.

Situations can be just as draining to our life force and distracting from our purpose as energy vampires would be. Sometimes situations are changeable. But sometimes, not immediately, like a job, or seemingly not ever, like family gatherings. Whatever the situation, we can leave with grace, ease and in the highest integrity.

Last week, we considered energy vampires and how to take care of ourselves. This week, we’re looking at places and situations not in our highest good.

Say no, and get out of the situation, if you can!

If you can’t, then do everything you can to love and care for yourself in the situation. Practice tons of self-love.

Taking the attitude of a co-creator of life is powerful. I inquire why I am co-creating this situation for myself. I often ask: what is there for me to learn to learn?

When taking space, renewing or leaving a place or person I do the following practice to leave cleanly, without as much emotional or energetic residue.

  1. I envision all the energy, heart, love and soul I’ve given to that place as a glowing ball of light and I take back what is mine. I know this doesn’t diminish all I’ve given them. However, now we are parting ways, it’s time I take what is mine back.
  1. I envision anything they’ve given me as a ball of light, whether its good things like trust, love, care or in the case of a workplace, a salary, benefits, work, or hard things like critiques, harsh words, feelings or situations, I ball it all up as light and offer it back to them. I give them back what is their’s and get clear on what isn’t mine.
  1. I forgive any misunderstandings of who I am, or who they are. Forgiveness is a huge key to letting go. Without this step, if we hold onto anger or resentment it burns inside of us and keeps us attached to the situation rather than able to move on and move forward. Forgiveness is a key to freedom.
  2. I forgive myself for anything I’ve felt, or that I might have done or said that wasn’t in my highest being or for my or their highest benefit. I forgive myself for temporarily letting the situation allow me to forget who I truly am. Forgiving ourselves is a necessary part of the forgiveness process. We free ourselves from being stuck in the conditions that created the situation when we forgive ourselves.
  1. I offer gratitude for what blessings, benefits and growth I’ve received. I find as many things I can be grateful for about the person or place as possible.
  1. I bathe myself in a warm white light from earth and sky and offer gratitude and appreciation of myself for all my gifts and who I truly am. I list as many of my good qualities and gifts as I can. I remember myself at my highest being and know that everything happens for my personal, emotional, mental and spiritual evolution. I open up to this growth and am ready to receive it with grace, ease and joy.
  1. I wipe or chop my hands in front of my body as if I’m cutting energetic cords. Then I circle them around in joy and offer it all up, the whole experience, to the universe.

Good energy your way,


P.S. I learned and got the support to practice so many of these tools in yoga teacher training. The Cloud Nine 200 hour teacher training starts this week so the doors for our Yoga Teacher Training are closing soon! You can still snag one of the last spots in our unique, heart-centered, powerful and intimate Yoga Teacher Training.

P.P.S. And check out my viral article published on Huffington Post! A follow up piece is soon to come. My dream is to see all of us thinking and talking about oneness, inclusion and decolonizing our hearts, minds and practice.

The world is made whole
by your preciousness.
Do not rob it of your fullest expression.
Yoke yourself, like mad, 
to daring exploration of your true nature.
Dive in. Share your voice. Shine your light.”
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Deepen Your Practice.
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